Take Two! - To play it safe is not to play.
May. 24th, 2011
04:16 pm - Take Two!
Richard just left for a play date with a girl he used to see, so I thought I'd take the time to post about how I'm feeling. :)
I'm very happy to say that I'm feeling pretty good about the situation. They haven't seen each other in a couple of years because she's been in the military and lives far away anyhow. They had gone to college together for a while, and had a semi-relationship that seems to have been mainly sexual. She's in town for about a week and she wanted him to come out to fuck her last night, but he and I had previous plans so it had to wait until this afternoon. She was texting him most of the night instead, saying very dirty things, and I had a lot of fun being able to spy on their conversation (with his permission) while he and I talked more about our status and the situation with this other girl. It was definitely a turn on to see someone else as turned on by him and what he does as I am, to read the naughty things she was saying to him, and to watch/read him talking dirty back to her. He did a wonderful job of making me feel in the loop, and giving me the attention I needed as well, so I felt pretty comfortable about it all. I was able to fight the little jealousy twinges pretty easily, and they were seamlessly replaced with arousal. He and I ended up having a wonderful sheet-wrestling match that he certainly won (but really... when he wins, we both win ;P). I went to sleep feeling quite happy about where we are as a couple and in our lives.
Anyhow, he's with her right now and I am still perfectly okay with that. Hell, I am SMILING right now. Believe it or not, I'm really just glad for the pleasures he'll be able to enjoy that he might not have otherwise had the chance to experience today. If he tries anything we haven't done together yet, I hope that he'll introduce that to me too. ;) That's part of the beauty of an open status, in my opinion. You have the opportunity to learn new things to try with other partners, and potentially enhance your primary relationship (if you have one) in the process. I noticed last night, even, that the excitement of talking to another girl got him in the mood to be a little more adventurous in bed with me than he usually is. Win-win!
For anyone wondering what my thought process is, I remind myself that it is just play. They are having fun and enjoying each other, and that is not a threat to me in any way. He and I still love and want each other just as much, and he would not give up his life with me to be with someone else. As long as I know those things, I have nothing to fear, and so I don't anymore. :)
I'm looking forward to hearing about his date when he gets home in a couple of hours, and seeing if I can keep this positive attitude about it, no matter what he tells me. I think I am certainly up for that challenge more so than I've ever been!